One of the things I find hardest about trying to start a business is decision making. When you work for someone else, you have colleagues and supervisors to run stuff by, brainstorm with, get advice from. When you work for yourself and by yourself, you are often left holding the ball. Of course, you can run the big stuff by your spouse, friends or family, but you can only do that so often before their eyes glaze over.
When it comes down to it, it’s all up to us. When you’re making a decision, you are the one who is going to have to live with it. Your family may have to live with the financial impact of the decision, sure. But YOU are the one who needs to feel like this is 100% the right decision.
Something that has been really, really helpful for me, not just in trying to get a business going, but also in my personal life, has been the idea of inner consent (sorry, I tried to find a less academic description of the term!). I think of it as living your life and making decisions in a way that you can really stand behind them. Not doing something just because you think you "should" do it, and not doing it because everyone else is doing it that way (or telling you to do it that way).
Do you ever struggle and wrestle with a decision, and then suddenly it’s like the answer hits you in the face? All of a sudden you just know that you’ve found your answer? Somehow it just feels right, and everything seems to come together – Your ‘heart’ and your mind agree and you’ve found a decision you can stand behind. The decision fits with who you are and what you value, not necessarily with who you’d like to be. This is how I think of inner consent. [note: I’m not saying every decision will end with a lightning strike moment like this! But, this is an example of how I think of inner consent at it’s best].
And I think by making a decision you can give your inner consent to, you won’t have to second guess yourself, have regrets, or have to live with a decision that you just don’t feel right about.
So, is this a random post, or what?! I hope it made at least a tiny bit of sense.
By the way, I like to add pictures to all my posts, but couldn’t think of an appropriate one for this post…A little person with the words ‘OK’ inside her? Hmmm…I’ll have to think on that one