Written By Jen
Jen, founder of UrbanMoms and mom of 2, philosophizes about modern day mothering, social media, and the true value of community.Read Her Blog "Mom's The Word"
This weekend I did something momentous. Something I feared was no longer a part of my life. I went out with my girlfriends! I know this sounds crazy but I haven’t been out since my first child was born. I don’t mean out for dinner or a movie I mean OUT. We got dressed up, put some make-up on, had a cocktail and went out. I was nervous at first leaving my kids overnight with my mom but once they were gone, the excitement kicked in.
It’s funny, I hadn’t realized how much I missed "me" until that night. The last 3+ years I have focussed so much on being a mom that I lost sight of myself a bit. I hear moms, especially those with older kids, talk about how we are still the women we used to be just with kids but I wasn’t so sure. Looking at my life now it barely resembles the life I had before. Strangely though, I am still the same person. So much has changed but at the core, it’s still me. My night out with the girls brought me back.
There were 5 of us, only 2 of us have kids and my firend’s kids are almost teenagers. I was sure I would feel like a fish out of water but amazingly, it all came back. I danced, I laughed, I even flirted (sort of…does a smile count?). It felt great! I watched as my single friends "played" the room as I used to and felt so happy to be there but thrilled to be going home to my life once this night was done (no offence, guys).
I think that is really the point. I learned a valuable lesson. There are things I miss about my previous self and it is fun to go back and visit or reminisce but I wouldn’t trade my life now for anything. My night out was a blast! Thanks girls. Now, a renewed me can go back to being mom.
Emily is an urban mom to a 10 month old daughter and 3 year old son. She’ll continue to Keep It Cool throughout the summer so check back soon and please share your comments below!