A discussion you will likely never see me participate in is one about breastfeeding. You see, even before I was pregnant I knew that I would not be a breast-feeder. That opinion didn’t change throughout my pregnancy or after my son was born. It hasn’t changed now that I’m pregnant with my second. It’s not that I’m anti-breastfeeding, not at all, I have mad respect for moms who do. It’s just a decision I made for myself. I’ve been very lucky to have friends, family and even doctors who have supported my decision. I know that not all formula feeding moms are that lucky.
I’m also looking forward to my upcoming c-section. I know right? Again I have nothing against those women who choose natural/home/water births, it’s just not for me. Though for the life of me I just can’t comprehend wanting to do it without the pain meds, holy moses those meds are awesome. My first c-section wasn’t necessarily planned but I had a feeling all along that Chase’s birth would happen that way. After three hours of pushing it became clear to everyone else that he was most definitely not going to fit the natural way. Again, I wouldn’t dream of judging a woman who chose a different birth plan, all I ask is the same in return. Please don’t try to tell me that I missed out on “the miracle of birth” just because I had a c-section. I’m willing to bet that I was just as overwhelmed with love when the doctor handed me my baby as you were when you first held yours.
I could go on and on about all the ways I’m “doing it wrong” but here’s the thing, I’m not. As for all those moms who do it differently than me? They aren’t doing it wrong either. It is my absolute belief that so long as your child is happy, healthy and well adjusted then you are doing it just right.
**sidebar: This is one of my favorite things about the Urban Moms writing staff and community, we all have such different approaches to parenting and yet we all SUPPORT each other. I don’t really think I’m a “bad” mom either nor do I think any of you think I am.