I have two favourite times of the day. The first happens usually around 6:10 when the bean lying next to me starts to shift around, poke me in the legs to make sure I’m there, and then he smiles and comes out with his first nugget of the day:
Mom. Uncle John in the coolest dude.
Mom. You said you were going to spell salamander last night and you didn’t.
Mom. Is it the weekend?
My other fave time? When I get him from daycare and he starts to regale me with the stories of his day. What he had for lunch. Who did what in the home centre. What sound they learned in JK. Lately I’m noticing that a lot of the convos are around who is his best friend and who doesn’t play with him anymore.
I’m trying to steer him away from the whole ‘best friends’ concept. I’d rather he have a slew friends than a BFF. In public school, I had a friend who would shift her affections between me and another girl all the time. I found it so hard. I don’t want him to be on the receiving or giving end of that kind of friendship.
When I hear ‘so and so doesn’t want to play with me’, I always ask him about other kids that are there to play with. I’m constantly astounded that at the age of four, there already seems to be a bit of a social hierarchy among these kids. X will only play with him if Y isn’t at school or A, B and C like to play together and don’t want him to play. I really want to try and knock that down. Although frankly, it would be easier to cure cancer probably.
How do you guys handle the whole friends deal? Do I just listen and let it play out or do I try to get him to understand that the cool kids in JK will probably have peaked by grade four?
He is also getting the crap beaten out of him by a girl on a daily basis. I explained it means that she likes him. Somethings never change.
It used to be so easy when they didn’t talk…