Today is October 1st. It has been one month since we lost Scott.
We need a will. We don’t have one. And I realized why two weeks ago, when I sent Sean a text after a particularly draining morning at my mums. It read:
So ya. That’s why we don’t have a will. It’s uncomfortable to talk about because you are forced to think about things you do not want to think about.
Like who will care for your children should something happen to you and your spouse.
And asking those people if they would be willing to take on that massive task.
Replacing our empty ketchup is easier than creating a will.
We really try to live in the present with autism, because we don’t know what the future holds. Our greatest hope is that he will live an independent life, full of meaningful relationships. We expect that will happen, but we would be remiss if we didn’t also have a “backup plan”.
I have talked to my parents and my sisters, they have all put my mind at ease.
But the difficult conversations have taken place and soon it will be official (holy geez these things aren’t cheap!) and legal and we can put the notarized envelopes in our safe and forget about them.
I’m curious how many people have a will. Or don’t. Do you?
Was it a difficult task for you or were you able to do it without too much emotion?