7 09/12/2012 parenting Alone Time

Workshop

So the family is heading away for the weekend tomorrow night. Back to Hudson’s namesake just outside of Montreal. Hudson is a bucolic treasure on the shores of the lac des Deux Montagnes and where my wife grew up and where her mother still lives. It’s a visit to grandma’s house for the boys and a reconnect for Steph as many of her friends still live there, including two of her closest.

But seriously, what does this all mean?  It means as of 6:00pm tomorrow night, me and my dog Alice will be spending three days at home alone.
devil-clip-art.pngThe last time the kids were away was a week in August. They spent eight days with my sister and my mother as Steph and I were working. At first the freedom was nice, a breather, quality time alone with my wife (prwrrrr!).  But by day three I was jonesing to see the boys, smell their hair, cuddle and wrestle and chill. This time I do not have Steph to hang out with so I will have to fill my time accordingly.  It’s funny how initially attractive the thought of being alone is – the beer in my boxers while watching a sport event, or sleeping in and eating a fried egg sandwich in bed.  But the truth is my dynamic is built around the imbroglio of child rearing and wife partnering. Take that away from me and I am bit lost, not knowing what to do with all this free time, I mean there is only so much hand lotion in the house.

Ok, this is a bit too woe is me. Yes I will enjoy the alone time and yes, I am playing golf on Saturday with three of my oldest friends. But usually, when this rare event happens, I try to plan my days and nights to take advantage of the freedom and maybe because my plans are falling through I am anticipating being bored which will elevate the missing of my boys and wife.

So, that being said, anyone want to go for a drink?

Do you take advantage of downtime?  Do you get downtime?

  • Kath

    Down + Time = DOES NOT COMPUTE
    Not in my life, anyway. If I had some? Honest true time with nobody but me at home? I’d read, watch TV and then feel guilty and clean up the clutter!

  • Erin Little

    I would go for a hike. But honestly, I’d spend most of the time organizing probably. Cleaning up. Stuff that gets pushed to the side in our busyness.

  • Carrie

    my husband is like you. He can’t imagine being away from our kids, hates traveling for work. Me? If I had a WHOLE weekend with NO kids OR husband?? Oh my…the books I would read. I could possibly devour three or four in one weekend with no one bugging me!

  • Nancy

    I remember being told- do what you could not easily do when they are all there- so GOLF is a good place to start. Defintely don’t play with LEGO or flashcards.
    I think you will be okay. One day at a time.

  • Tracey

    I very seldom get to enjoy the sort of downtime you’re talking about. I’ve not been away from my family since a long-weekend last summer… and to be alone in my own house without my husband or children? That would be a DREAM COME TRUE!! (But, I’ll bet that’s true of LOTS of home-based parents.)
    That said, the time both drags on, and evaporates before you know it – enjoy yourself!! (And don’t wipe any egg sandwich grease on the sheets.)

  • Tracey

    *snort*

  • Julie

    you could always go to Fuzz again :-)

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