As I posted here, Fiona & Sophie are arguing more often. Sometimes I even hear the phrase “I don’t like Sophie/Fiona anymore.”, so sad.
The girls often fight over objects: toys or often, shoes or clothing. When this happens I try to help them negotiate a way to share, but that doesn’t work with PJs because tomorrow night is too far away to appease. In those cases Sophie often lets Fiona have the object of contention.
The other day Sophie asked to have her lunch in the kitty cat bowl. It’s a pottery bowl with a black cat painted on. We used to have a baby bear bowl too but it broke about a year ago. John gave Soph her lunch in the bowl and Fiona had a melt down. She had to have the bowl. Sophie (somewhat reluctantly) gave the bowl to Fiona. What a generous girl.
Fiona does not share as easily. I know that I shouldn’t try to force her to share. I do try to convince her sometimes but the decision is hers. She also has more dramatic and frequent melt downs and sometimes I wonder if she’s workin’ it, if you know what I mean.
I wonder if this means anything. Is Sophie a negotiator and Fiona a hoarder? I guess time will tell but it’s interesting how different their personalities are.
For the record they are best friends most of the time. Right now they are busily decorating their “airplane” (cardboard box) with markers and stamps. The are discussing what colours will look good and which stamps they should use. Uh oh, now they’re painting their fingernails with the markers. “I’m going to colour my finger nails and wash it off at washing time, good thing these are washable markers” , says Sophie. Fiona replies, “Make sure you put the lids back on tight, we don’t want the markers to dry out.”