When are you due?
Look how big you are!
You’re pregnant with #2; that’s exciting/stressful!
These in addition to a myriad of other comments and questions are what I have to deal with on a daily basis. Our culture is baby obsessed but unfortunately no one has any tact when it comes to socializing with a pregnant woman.
Before I got knocked up I was a person that lived and worked and had hobbies/interests. I went out to new restaurants, read books, cooked interesting food, watched movies.
Well guess what? I’m still that same person. I just happen to have a parasite growing in my abdomen. And you know what else? I’d love it if we could talk about something other than my pregnancy because unlike you I’ve been living, breathing, and feeling it for the past 207 days (yep that’s an exact number).
So just to give you a taste of the inappropriate questions people ask me everyday and comments people make I’ve listed them here for your embarrassment:
Was it planned? (this is my all time favourite!)
Did it take you a long time?
You’re going to have your hands full! You must be stressed.
I hope you have help!
Are you going to have another c section?
Are you going to go back to work?
I could never be a stay-at-home mom!
How are you going to afford daycare for two kids?
You’re taking Ethan out of daycare for the summer?!
What are you going to do with your house – you only have two bedrooms!
Are you going to move?
You look like you’re about to pop!
I can’t believe you’re not finding out the sex!
You look so much bigger this time than last time.
You look SO uncomfortable!
I could keep going (honestly).
So here’s my question. Why is that people have no filter when it comes to talking to pregnant ladies. Is there some kind of carte blanche that get’s distributed that I’m unaware of?
Now I will give some of you the benefit of the doubt, because some pregnant women can be as equally obnoxious. Like all they talk about is their pregnancy and their nursery plans etc. etc., but I’m not that girl. In fact, I’d prefer not to talk about it because I know, unless you’re a close personal friend or a family member, you probably don’t really care.
So here’s my advice for all you social awkwards. When you’re chatting up a pregnant chick at a social function, work, school, wherever. Just ask her how she’s feeling or doing (I always appreciate this question) and then move on to more interesting questions like what are you up to today? or how’s work? or what have you been up to lately? Trust me you’ll be more interested in the conversation and the pregnant lady you’re chatting to will appreciate your conversational skills.
What are some of the crazy questions/comments you’ve received while pregnant? I could also write a whole new blog post on the unsolicited advice you get when your baby is born, but I’ll save that for another time.